Parenting In Islamic Way

One of the biggest blessings for a kid is a proper upbringing. Growing a child is not a piece of cake, especially nowadays. Parents have to face a lot of challenges to fulfill this responsibility. To raise a pious child, parents find themselves entirely in a problematic situation if he doesn't have any proper knowledge about Islam. Islam has provided good guidelines to help parents raise kids according to Islamic values. 

Keep in mind that Islamic parenting is a demanding full-time job. It would be ideal if you were always in the driving seat. You are on duty every day, every hour, every minute, and even every second. There are no vacation days or holidays. Just be sure to keep enjoying it. Plan your thoughts accordingly so that you can enjoy every moment of your responsibility as a PARENT. Your children are a gift from Allah, and He will inquire of you regarding how you brought them up. It will not be beneficial in this world or the afterlife if they are not raised in an Islamic manner as a result of your neglect.

To make it easy for parents, we have mentioned some essential principles which make them productive parents. 

Principle 1: Children are born pure

“No child is born except on al-fitra (Islam or primordial human nature) and then his parents make him Jewish, Christian, or Magian, as an animal produces a perfect young animal: do you see any part of its body amputated?” [Sahih Muslim] 

As it is clearly mentioned in the above hadith each child is heavily influenced by society. If this child is nurtured in a society where all values are followed properly, people are loved and given respect then this child will also start giving respect and love. He will mold himself according to society. So a big responsibility lies on parents where they are nurturing their kids. Kids mostly imitate their parents so parents should take care of how they talk and behave with other people.

Principle 2:Preach By Example

You are your children's first and most important teacher. So set an example for them rather than merely teaching and preaching to them. Live the life you want them to live by demonstrating it to them.

Principle 3: Be there for good Islamic parenting at all times.

Always be there for your children when you need to be and when they need you. You should neither abandon them nor give them to someone else to take care of. Although I am aware that everyone is quite busy with their work and other obligations these days, I can promise you that your children are worth the time you spend on them. It's acceptable to lead a simpler life with a modestly equipped vehicle, affordable clothing, and a sparsely furnished home. But having a poorly behaved adult child who is unable to live their life in accordance with Islamic principles is not acceptable.

Principle 4: Make Prayer a unique practice.

If people witness you praying on time, they will also pray. Through your attitude, demonstrate to your child the importance of prayer in your life. While praying, keep them close by. Additionally, let them know what Duas you make following each prayer.

Principle 5: Teach Them Sunnah

Start with minor Sunnah practices, then teach them larger ones as well, please. Start drinking water while sitting down, eat with your right hand, greet people as you enter their homes or meet them, etc. Allow them to practice it with you at all times.